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Everything I Know About Women

New Man's resident comedy writer explains chick flicks, shopping, menopause and childbirth. Be afraid ... be very afraid.

After years of exhaustive research, scientists have recently concluded that, due to a bunch of comp-licated factors involving X and Y chromosomes, men and women have completely different genders.

The full story was published in the October edition of a medical journal called Duh! read more

No White Knight Needed: She Wants an Average (Caring) Joe.

What can the shtick-slinging comedic candor of married TV characters teach us about women?


In all the push to become the knight in shining armor rescuing his beauty, it might be good to let our reality catch up with our fantasy. The bad news is none of us are Brad Pitt, but, apparently, the good news is that we don't have to be.

A female friend and I had an interesting conversation recently about what women really want from men. Much of what she told me was in reaction to the popular paradigm that a man should approach a woman as a rescuer. This was all good and fine, she said, but the knight-in-shining-armor caricature is more of a male fantasy than a female fantasy. read more

Surviving Mid-Wife Crisis

Before you judge your wife for letting herself go, take a good look at the man in your mirror.

 

Sometimes it's physical--wrinkles and sagging body parts. Other times a raging boredom sets in. Sometimes it's a career that goes awry. Sometimes it's just a simple unhappiness with the way your life is turning out. A man looks at his wife one morning and thinks, Maybe I should trade in my 40 for two 20s.

Forty percent of first marriages eventually end in divorce. Will yours? Many of these dissolutions take place during midlife. read more

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Know RESPECT

The secret to winning a woman's heart is found in the pages of God's Word.

Years ago a couple came to us for marriage counseling who were on the verge of divorce. Why? Because the husband continually failed to lower the toilet seat!

Thankfully, we can report that they are happily married today. Generally speaking, however, men really don't understand women. But why? read more

Wired to Admire

Hard-wired into man's genetic code is a strong desire for beauty. But unrealistic expectations are short-circuiting God's design.

Let's face it, there's just something wired into the male psyche that causes the passionate admiration and pursuit of beauty.

Virtually every man has at least once in his lifetime fantasized about snagging the "perfect woman." And while any gathering of red-blooded males might stir up a healthy argument over which woman deserves the title, author and Christian "sexpert" Doug Rosenau says that most men have a hard time narrowing it down to one person. read more

Can You Hear Me Now?

How to recognize God's voice and respond in obedience.

 

I was driving down a busy street when my cell phone rang. Fumbling for my phone, I snatched it up and pushed it against my ear.

"Hello?" I was greeted with loud static. Through the electronic interference I could barely make out the muffled sounds of a woman's voice. I strained to hear her words. read more

Dude, Where's My Mission?

Can't seem to find a purpose for your life? It could be that you haven't embraced the muscular side of your faith.

 

Many men in the church today are missing something. They are unable to handle the blazing arrows that fly sizzling at their hearts. They are ill-equipped to handle the unsavory side of leadership, such as standing up for what is right when it is within their power to do so (see Prov. 3:27).

They lack the inner lion that needs to roar to protect others, the way the apostle Paul roared at false teaching that threatened to choke the early church. They lack the steadfast power they need to combat a world at war with truth. read more

My Mission to China

The memoirs of Hudson Taylor remind us of the risks and rewards of obeying the call.

Shortly after my conversion, I retired to my own chamber to spend time in communion with God, pouring out my soul before Him. I was a child under the age of 16, but I remember the occasion well.

As an outlet for my love and gratitude for God, I sought for Him to give me a self-denying service, no matter what it might be.

I put myself, my life, my friends--my all--upon the altar. A deep solemnity came over my soul with the assurance that my offering was accepted. read more

There's a Warrior In You

Why are so many Christian men today defeated by sin? It's because they've never enlisted for spiritual battle.


Like so many typical churchgoing guys, Ben admits that he struggles in his relationship with God. He tries to maintain a consistent prayer life, but too often he sleeps through his alarm and ends up having morning devotions during his harried commute to work. He made Bible study a goal, but he keeps falling asleep while reading the Word because he feels so tired after a hard day at the office.

Then there's that nagging lust problem. Ben once confessed to a friend at church that he peeks at online pornography. What he didn't admit was that he regularly entertains sexual fantasies--and that these impure thoughts trigger continual guilt. As a result of his shame, he withholds feelings from his wife--which is causing an uneasy coldness in his marriage. read more

Imitating the Father

This smorgasbord of devotional thought reflects the ever-constant human condition--in need of God.

The kingdom of God is within you," says the Lord. Turn, then, to God with all your heart. Learn to devote yourself to the gifts of God's kingdom. Forsake this wretched world and your soul shall find rest.

Since Christ comes to you offering His consolation, prepare a fit dwelling for Him in your heart. read more

Holy Headlock

Ted 'Million Dollar Man' DiBiase is back in the ring. Now instead of slamming bodies, he's working to save souls.

The 49-year-old is recreating the sights and sounds of the world he left behind a decade ago into a wrestling show centered around the gospel of Jesus Christ in parable form. The stage he sets at churches across America resembles one found at professional wrestling venues, with recognizable celebrities, cheering crowds and state-of-the-art technology. read more

Solo Sex

Should our actions be dictated by physical nature or response to God's Word?


Jeff brought the book with him and set it on the table. We met for an early morning breakfast at a coffee shop and sat in a corner booth, away from where anyone else could hear our conversation.

"When I first read this book, Pastor Jack," Jeff began, "I felt liberated. But then all the confused feelings I had came back."

The Christian author proposed masturbation as an acceptable point of adjustment for a believer's life until marriage. read more

Adjust Your Attitude to Get in Shape


Getting in shape begins with a mental exercise. It was your positive mental attitude that got you off the couch in the first place, and it will take a positive mental attitude to keep you off the couch.

To become physically fit you must become mentally fit. Your success for reaching your genetic potential will come from the strength of your mental attitude. To avoid hitting a plateau in your progress, keep a positive attitude. read more

What Do Women Want?


Husbands desire to be great lovers with a truly skillful and passionate sex life. What happens that so many men fall short of this grand goal? Here are two of the most common skill deficits that sabotage these lofty dreams: (1) Men don't truly understand women; and (2) Men don't realize that they don't truly understand women.

These seven keys will unlock passion in your marriage. read more

Is It Lust or Legalism?

Not every thought in your head should be attributed to your heart.


I can still see my church's shag green carpet under my prostrate body and my head bowed in prayer. I was a young man with raging hormones--passionate for God but developing sexually as well.

In an agonizing moment, I wanted to scream out with frustration as I fruitlessly attempted to shut out of my mind sexual images that kept interrupting a holy moment of prayer. Like Paul my cry was: "Who will rescue me from this wretched body of death?" (Rom. 7:24, NIV). I felt dirty, defeated and distant from God. read more

Doomsday Prophet?

Leaning on his cane, a kippah, or traditional head covering worn by Jews, perched atop his silver hair, the mustachioed 62-year-old man's dark eyes danced like a little boy's as he spoke about the dream of his life--a dream so big it would fit well as a major plot line for a Left Behind book: rebuilding the third temple at the holiest place in Israel, the Temple Mount.

At his small office in an upstairs apartment in Jerusalem, Gershon Salomon stood over a miniature scale model of the third temple, carefully pointing out the Court of the Gentiles, the Women's Court where women entered, and the inner court's most sacred place--the Holy of Holies where the high priest could perform only one sacrifice per year. read more

Chicago No-Nonsense Preacher

Looking for straight answers? You'll find them at Bishop Arthur Brazier's church.

 

At 81, Bishop Arthur Brazier still refuses to play it safe. Back in the '60s, when many black Pentecostal pastors worried about mixing politics with religion, Brazier was at the forefront of the civil rights movement.

In fact, he was a confidant of Martin Luther King Jr. when the famous activist temporarily resided in Chicago. read more

Daydream Believer

Remember that movie Hoosiers, in which a small town basketball team wins the state championship in Indiana? In the dramatic conclusion, one of the players gets to sink the shot that wins the game over the highly favored big city school. I think I've watched that movie 20 times. I'd like to be that guy. read more

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Welcome to the Ready Room

The thing I miss most about being a pilot in the Marines is the Ready Room, where we gathered before and after our flights.

It smelled of sweaty flight suits, and occasionally, coarse humor blued the air while our inflated egos competed, but I loved it nonetheless.

Then came the day I had to let it all go. I hadn't grown up in the church, so when I met Christ in a bunker in Vietnam, my life had to change.

Being a fighter pilot had been my dream since childhood, and here I was living it. But one morning as I sat reading the Bible, I struggled to understand what Paul was saying in Romans 8:15: "You received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, 'Abba, Father'" (NIV). read more

Watch Your Mouth!

Real men don't use bad language.

 

If you watch enough television and movies, or listen to enough popular music, you'll eventually get the message that real men talk like old sailors. Words once considered taboo in public have now become part of our nation's lexicon.

In his book Cursing in America, Timothy Jay says 13 percent of the leisure conversation of American adults contains cursing. As Christian men, we're supposed to adhere to a higher standard than the rest of the world. Unfortunately, the talk doesn't always match the walk. read more

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