Mary Alessi: Pressing on Through Adversity

Mary Alessi has been ministering through music ever since she was a young girl traveling with her family. Now, she pastors Metro Life in Miami with her husband, Steve. This mother of four is also a worship leader, and she recently released her third album, Pressing On. Alessi spoke to Charisma about her music ministry and the inspiration behind her new album.

Charisma: Tell us about your music ministry.

Mary Alessi: I am a pastor’s wife, a worship leader and I’ve been leading worship almost 20 years ever since I started out many years ago I started leading worship. I traveled with my family as a kid and my dad and mom were evangelists, and we traveled, so ministry and singing are definitely in my soul, it’s in my blood.

Worship really is the theme of my life. That’s my style. That would probably be what would define me. I don’t consider myself a worship artist; I am a worship leader. That’s what I do every weekend and my projects carry a worship experience. My calling is to lead people into a greater walk with the Lord, not just sing a song but also really have an experience with the Lord through their worship.

Charisma: Your new CD, Pressing On, was inspired by a difficult season. Could you explain what happened?

Alessi: Three years ago, the day after Father’s Day, my husband had a severe heart attack; actually they labeled it a “widow maker.” We had no idea that anything like this would come; it just really hit us broadside. Steve had no health issues, never had any scare, no fear, no warnings from the doctors, nothing. He was very fit, very healthy. His heart attack came out of nowhere. It took the paramedics 45 minutes to bring him back to where his heart was stabilized so that they could tell me whether he would be OK or not. It was devastating, very traumatic.

Being a worship leader, we always say that in the deepest darkest moments we will praise God. We’re always encouraging people that when they’re going through it to sing a song of praise. The reality of it for me is that there are times where you’re going through something and a song just doesn’t come. When I was sitting in the kitchen praying, calling family and friends saying, “Please pray. Steve is dying. He’s having a heart attack. This is serious,” I couldn’t think of a song. All I could really call on was the name of Jesus. It was in that moment that God began to do an even deeper work in my heart and in my life even in that area of what worship truly is. It’s just a heart’s cry.

Did you ever question God?

Alessi: We questioned. Why God did you let this happen to Steve? Why is a part of his heart damaged, they call it dead? Why would you let that happen? Lord, we’ve given our entire lives for you. All we’ve known is ministry from the time we were little kids. We’ve never strayed. We’ve given everything to you. God why would you let this happen to the people you love? Will this bring any future occurrences? What does this mean?

In questioning, God just really began to speak to both of us that if there’s a limp in your life, then better you have that limp and live your life to the total fullest than somebody who doesn’t have a limp in their life and they still complain about where life is. We just said that we’re going to take this situation, we’re going to move on, we’re going to overcome and we’re going to do even great things because of this. We’re just determined to live even a greater existence with this limp in our lives.

The song “Pressing On” came out of that; I am pressing on because I don’t want live an ordinary life. I don’t want to just be ordinary. I want extraordinary things in my life because I know what I’m capable of with God on my side. I’m not going to get out of focus. I’m going to just press on. I think that’s the theme of our world today, and definitely should be of Christians, that no matter what adversity faces us, no matter what comes our way, we still have to get up and make a decision to say, “I don’t know where I’m going, but I can’t stay here. I’m pushing forward and I’m pressing on toward the mark of the high calling.”

What is something you learned going through such a traumatic event?

Alessi: I would say first and foremost leaning what grace is and what grace is not. We aren’t lucky boys and girls, sons and daughters when nothing happens to us. … I used to say, “Look at our lives. None of our kids are sick. Neither one of us had ever had an issue in our bodies. Look how blessed we are. Look how God has shined on us.” Well, when something bad happens, how do you say that and who do you look to? You think, OK God, what’s up?

What I thought was favor and blessing God began to show me, “No, no, Mary, when you walk through a deep dark valley but I sustain you and I hold you, that’s when you’re favored, that’s when you’re blessed.” It took me to a completely different understanding. … What grace became to me was that He gave me peace in the middle of the storm. He began to speak even stronger in the middle of this valley, “I don’t care, Mary, what adversity slips through and affects your life, you can overcome it. You can come out of it and live an even greater existence with it in your life.”

What do you most hope listeners will sense when they listen to Pressing On?

Alessi: This is not and overly emotional “Out of the ashes, I rise” cry. I’m not saying that. Sometimes when people go through terrible, traumatic experiences, worse than me, and we try to tell them, “You’ll rise again,” they don’t want to hear that. That’s a knowledge for later. They’re not there right now. That’s not where they’re at. I wanted to put together from my experience a simple song, more of a song you could sing to remind yourself that life happens, things happen. Don’t get mad at God. Don’t overemotionalize it. Don’t overstate it. Things happen in our lives. Just remember that there is a God who loves you and He will give you the ability to press on. You don’t have to start believing for a year from now, just believe for today, just believe for this next moment, this next step. Just press on, just push on.

You don’t have to have all the answers right now. You may not know where you’re going but you know you can’t stay where you are right now. So just get up and move forward, even if it’s just one step, one step after another. And then let God do the rest in your life, press on.

What I really hope that through the whole theme of this project is that people get that God is a redeemer. He redeems all of your days, the Word says. So even in adversity, any day that you feel like you’ve lost, He will redeem it. Somehow, someway He will give it back.

I would not trade the experience of Steve’s heart attack for anything in the world. Would I wish that Steve’s heart were fully functioning and whole and perfect? Absolutely, I do, and God is the healer. But it won’t stop me. It’s not an excuse. It’s not a hang up. It’s not an argument with God. I press on because God has called Steve and me to great things, even with a partially damaged heart. It won’t stop us. It won’t hold us back. The old us is gone. We have a renewed sense of acknowledgement of how precious life is, how amazing this life He has given us is, and we’re going to live it all the way out, squeeze every bit of juice out of it.



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Scriptures on Grief

My soul melts from heaviness; Strengthen me according to Your word.
-Psalm 119:28

Blessed are you who weep now, For you shall laugh.
-Luke 6:21

Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted.
-Matthew 5:4

The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.
-Psalm 34:18

Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
-John 14:27

Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work.
-2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; For I shall yet praise Him, The help of my countenance and my God.
-Psalm 43:5

" Then shall the virgin rejoice in the dance, And the young men and the old, together; For I will turn their mourning to joy, Will comfort them, And make them rejoice rather than sorrow."
-Jeremiah 31:13

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
-2 Corinthians 1:3-4

Sing, O heavens! Be joyful, O earth! And break out in singing, O mountains! For the LORD has comforted His people, And will have mercy on His afflicted.
-Isaiah 49:13

But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope.
-1 Thessalonians 4:13
These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world."
-John 16:33

He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
-Psalms 147:3

As one whom his mother comforts, So I will comfort you;
-Isaiah 66:13

And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away."
-Revelation 21:4

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go."
-Joshua 1:9

But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.
-Isaiah 40:31

For the Lord will not cast off forever. Though He causes grief, Yet He will show compassion According to the multitude of His mercies. For He does not afflict willingly, Nor grieve the children of men.
- Lamentations 3:31-33

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;
-Philippians 4:6

Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, 7 casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.
-1 Peter 5:6-7

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