9 Ways to Protect Your Children From Sexual Abuse

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Here are nine practical things you can do to protect your children.
Here are nine practical things you can do to protect your children. (Charisma archives)

We are often asked, "What are some practical things parents can do to protect their children from sexual abuse?" Here are the nine practical things you can do to protect children.

1. Explain to your child that God made their body. An explanation can look something like: "Every part of your body is good, and some parts of your body are private."

2. Teach proper names of private body parts. It might be uncomfortable at first, but use the proper names of body parts. Children need to know the proper names for their genitals. This knowledge gives children correct language for understanding their bodies, for asking questions that need to be asked, and for telling about any behavior that could lead to sexual abuse.

Clearly identify for your child which parts of their anatomy are private. Explain to your child that "some places on your body should never be touched by other people—except when you need help in the bathroom, are getting dressed, or when you go to the doctor." You can do this with young children during bath time or have your child dress in a bathing suit and show them that all areas covered by a bathing suit are "private." The bathing suit analogy can be a bit misleading because it fails to mention that other parts of the body can be touched inappropriately (like mouth, legs, neck, arms), but it is a good start for little ones to understand the concept of private parts.

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3. Invite your child's communication. Let your child know they can tell you if anyone touches them in the private areas or in any way that makes them feel uncomfortable (even areas not covered by the bathing suit), no matter who the person is or what the person says to them. Assure your child they will not be in trouble if they tell you they've been touched inappropriately, rather, you will be proud of them for telling you and will help them through the situation.

4. Talk about touches. Be clear with adults and children about the difference between touch that is OK and touch that is inappropriate. To your child say something like: "Most of the time you like to be hugged, snuggled, tickled and kissed, but sometimes you don't, and that's OK. Let me know if anyone—family member, friend or anyone else—touches you or talks to you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable."

Teach little ones how to say "Stop," "All done" and "No more." You can reiterate this by stopping immediately when your child expresses that they are all done with the hugging or tickling. Your reaction is noteworthy for them as it demonstrates they have control over their bodies and desires.

If there are extended family members who may have a hard time understanding your family boundaries, you can explain that you are helping your children understand their ability to say no to unwanted touch, which will help them if anyone ever tries to hurt them. For example, if your child does not want to kiss Grandpa, let them give a high five or handshake instead.

5. Don't ask your child to maintain your emotions. Without thinking, we sometimes ask a child something along the lines of, "I'm sad, can I have a hug?" While this may be innocent in intent, it sets the child up to feel responsible for your emotions and state of being: "Mom is sad ... I need to cheer her up." If someone wanted to abuse a child they might use similar language to have the child "help" them feel better and the child might rationalize it as acceptable if this is something they do innocently with you.

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