During a decade of working as a male prostitute, I met countless men who had unintentionally moved from having opposite-sex attractions to having same-sex attractions.
Who knew such a thing was even possible? Indeed, why would they even want to? And why is no one talking about this?
The Idea Is Politically Incorrect
For starters, the idea flies in the face of false narratives that have been promulgated by gay activists since the 1950s, which claim that sexual orientation is genetically fixed and therefore unchangeable. There has never been any science to support such an assertion, but you'd never know that from what you hear in the media.
Is Gay to Straight Even Possible?
The big secret that the public is not supposed to know is that gay people can find healing for the causes of their homosexual confusion and develop some degree of heterosexual attraction. This is a well-established fact, proven in study after study and in the lives of countless former homosexuals. Our video, Such Were Some of You, features expert opinions as well as dozens of testimonies. Also, read my personal story of transition, Love Hunger.
If people can transition from gay to straight, it only makes sense that the reverse is true.
How People Go From Straight to Gay
In my years as a prostitute, I was able to discern numerous reasons why this transition had happened to many of the men who picked me up. Most of them had been happily married (with children) for decades without any same-sex attraction. So what caused that to change?
Reason for Change No. 1: Older men trying to rekindle a dying flame.
The first thing I noticed among middle-aged and older men was that they had become bored or impotent with their wives and were now in search of something that would kick-start their desires.
They were searching to find a way to recapture their lost adolescence, a time when they had experienced a strong sexual attraction to females.
Since young, attractive females no longer found them attractive, they resorted to the only sexual activity left to them—homosexuality.
It wasn't so much that they were attracted to males; their attraction was to the younger self that boys represented.
Over time, and without ever intending it, their brain would rewire itself to associate the new, male-to-male experiences with their lost sexual desire.
As a result, their original heterosexual attractions gradually morphed into homosexual ones.
Other Serious Consequences
That is why activist attempts to get young people to experiment with homosexual experiences should frighten us all. Though touted by culture as a form of innocent experimentation, it can create irreversible (or hard-to-reverse) damage to their internal identity and attractions.
It can also inaugurate a cascade of spiritual effects described in Romans 1:18-32, where God eventually gives them over to the idols that they have chosen instead of Him.
"Your own wickedness will correct you, and your backslidings will reprove you. Know therefore and see that it is an evil thing and bitter for you to have forsaken the Lord your God, and the fear of Me is not in you, says the Lord God of Hosts" (Jer. 2:19).
"And I will set the judgment before them, and they shall judge you according to their customs" (Ezek 23:24c; see also 23:35).
"You have hidden Your face from us and have consumed us because of our iniquities" (Isa. 64:7b, NASB).
Reason for Change No. 2: Sexual addiction. A second population of men who may unwittingly change sexual orientation is heterosexual sex addicts who have lost the ability to be sexually active with females due to pornography. The brain has a propensity to demand greater and more aberrant thrills in order to produce the same level of pleasure.
Studies show that porn use can produce impotence in the male. WebMD reports that between 1998 and 2002, the use of Viagra skyrocketed 312% among men aged 18-45. When sex addicts succumb to this new normal, they go in search of something that will rekindle the flame.
As these men engage in progressively perverse homosexual behavior, then ensues the same rewiring of the brain already mentioned.
Reason for Change No. 3: Broken adolescents. A third group of formerly straight, now gay clients consisted of men who had grown up as broken, suggestible adolescents with little ego strength. Such "boy-men" had a need to be told who they were by others. Their eyes would plead, "Who or what do you want me to be today?"
Such men would enter into same-sex activities as a response to being regularly approached by strong-willed homosexuals who could convince them that they were really gay.
In the midst of this identity crisis, they would eventually give in—usually when totally drunk. In this way, they could convince themselves that their behavior was merely opportunistic.
Repeated failure to attract girls was sometimes a factor, as was a fear of women. In being wanted so intensely and often by homosexuals, they could receive a much-needed ego boost and satisfy their sexual needs while escaping the dreaded rejection of women.
Surprised by the Powers of Darkness
A demonic factor is also at play here. When the desire or need for perversity increases, so does the strength of demonic powers. Theirs is a dominion above human power.
God has warned us that He will give us over to a perverse mind if we worship the creature rather than the Creator. The Bible is clear that lusting after someone in our heart is just one more manifestation of the greatest of all sins: idolatry.
"And do not let sexual immorality, or any impurity, or greed be named among you ... [such a person] is an idolater" (Eph. 5:3a, 5a).
"Therefore put to death ... sexual immorality, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry" (Col. 3:5; see also Ezek. 23:48-49, Matt. 5:27-28, Rom. 1:18-32).
A heterosexual sex addict is already someone who has become amoral. As such, it is no small step for him to eventually move into homosexual experimentation while searching for his sexual Shangri-La.
Females Who Go From Straight to Gay
Females are a different story for the most part. Their capacity to move from opposite-sex attraction to same-sex attraction is far easier. Same-sex attraction for them is usually not internally driven via a root-level confused identity. It is a reaction to abuse by males and a subsequent fear or hatred of them.
Things that attract a young boy in another male are symbolic of what they feel, deep inside, they are missing. But for females, the softer, more accepting feminine becomes the path to safety and intimacy.
However, once they find a safe, sensitive male (and once they have worked through their aversion to or fear of men), it is much easier for them to regain their former heterosexual inclinations—and thus we see the unsurprising movement from straight-to-gay-to-straight that was seen in the Anne Heche/Ellen Degeneres saga. (You can watch the story from Anne's mother's point of view at: youtu.be/FV3B5oD-nBs).
Mankind's 'Set Point'
God made all of us to be heterosexual—our "set point," as it were. However, life's circumstances, the ways we cope with trauma, as well as our own perverse desires can move us in all kinds of aberrant directions. However, since salvation, deliverance, cleansing and the healing power of God has been made available to all who surrender to Jesus Christ, we can return to our set point, which is more than just heterosexuality—it is eternal life in heaven, surrounded by His love and glory.
To hear my full teaching on this topic, click here for this episode of the Pure Passion Podcast.
Dr. David Kyle Foster is the author of Transformed Into His Image and Love Hunger, and is the founder/director of Mastering Life Ministries (MasteringLife.org). Read more of his take on sexual sin and brokenness in his newest book, The Sexual Healing Reference Edition and listen to his twice-weekly podcast at: charismapodcastnetwork.com/show/purepassion.
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