I was working on a difficult project recently and in the midst of it, I noticed tension in my head, neck, shoulders and chest.
It was painful.
Have you ever felt that way?
Mental distress or resistance (such as when you battle temptation or procrastination) often translates itself into physical tension.
However, I recently discovered a weird technique to battle anxiety and switch off stress (SOS) instantly.
The power to switch off stress enabled me to complete my project and relieve the tension.
Plus, I even pressed the switch last night to practice self-control with nighttime eating.
Here is an important key to know about stress: Most mental distress and resistance is fear-based.
Feelings of anxiety arise from fear of loss or when we imagine pain or discomfort.
That is what was happening to me with my difficult project.
I noticed the painful tension in my head and upper body, plus I noticed my breathing was shallow and my heart was beating faster.
But rather than leave myself in distress, I decided to do something about it.
I pressed the switch. What was it?
I gave myself a hug.
"Come on," you are probably thinking. "It can't be that simple."
But it was. However, I didn't just give myself any old hug; it was a "healing hug."
I dare you to try it right now. Close your eyes and give yourself a firm hug for 20-60 seconds (depending on the severity of your stress) with your non-dominant arm on top, covering your chin with your top arm.
For example, if you are right-handed, hug yourself with your left arm on top. Or if left-handed, put your right arm on top.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply, reassuring yourself that the Lord is with you, comforting you in your distress.
This is a caring, kind thing to do for yourself.
I don't know about you, but I felt better after my hug—less stressed.
Turns out science has a reason for that.
Oxytocin calms down our nervous system.
Isn't it amazing how God gave us something so simple as the ability to hug to benefit others and ourselves? I think the reason the hug worked was because God designed us to respond to love.
1 John 4:18 says, "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. Whoever fears is not perfect in love."
So whenever you feel mental stress, the master strategy to calm down is to tap into God's love.
Here are the complete steps to giving yourself a healing hug:
1. Close your eyes and give yourself a firm hug for 20-60 seconds (depending on the severity of your stress) with your non-dominant arm on top, covering your chin with your top arm.
2. During your hug, breathe deeply into your gut and imagine your heart rate slowing down.
3. Speak the following truths from God's word to yourself or meditate on them, knowing that the Lord is comforting you in your distress. He promises to never leave nor forsake you.
- ""Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations; I will be exalted in the earth" (Ps. 46:10).
- "He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, "He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God in whom I trust" (Ps. 91:1-2).
- "I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But be of good cheer. I have overcome the world" (John 16:33)
- "The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?" (Heb. 13:6b).
- "I can do all things because of Christ who strengthens me" (Phil. 4:13).
If you are a stress-reactive person like me, you may need to give yourself a healing hug several times a day. I do it when I find myself wanting to procrastinate on a project or during the evening when I might be tempted to night-eat.
From a calmer position, I can take that first step to do what I want to do or focus on something else rather than eating mindlessly.
The Bible says in Proverbs 4:23, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life."
For me, healing hugs will be my first go-to strategy to switch off stress.
It's one way to keep your heart with diligence—literally!
Once 240 pounds and a size 22, Kimberly Taylor can testify to God's healing power to end binge-eating. She is an author and the creator of the Christian weight-loss website takebackyourtemple.com. Visit today for inspirational health and weight-loss tips.
This article originally appeared at takebackyourtemple.com.
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