As you're out and about, begin to observe the people around you—in your office, classroom, church or at a coffee shop. Look at how they walk. Listen to how they talk. You don't have to be too observant to see that people typically hold themselves in one of two ways: head held low and quiet or flashy and loud. While these seem to be two very different postures, both are often rooted in probably the most powerful insecurity—fear of rejection.
The Sources of Insecurity
Think about it. The one who holds her head low does so because she's never had anything authentic to give her identity and confidence. In fact, it's likely that she experienced intense rejection in the past and holds herself back to keep from being rejected again. The one who's loud and boisterous might have the opposite experience. He's become accustomed to people liking him for his abilities or his stuff. And so he believes he must continue to project a flashy image to remain accepted.
Sure, people of all generations have faced rejection. Kids have always been cruel to one another. People have always selected friends based on superficial characteristics. But the rejection many face today is so much deeper than being passed over for a promotion or chosen last for team. It's rooted in things like increased betrayal by spouses, more and more runaway fathers and severe social media shaming.
The Truth About Rejection
Do you struggle with feeling as though you're just a mistake, an accident or unlovable? Let me give you some encouragement that helped me when I was feeling pretty insecure and rejected myself. In John 15:16a, Jesus says, "You did not choose me, but I chose you." Did you hear that? Jesus says, "I chose you."
So here's some truth about rejection. It might be true that you were a surprise to your parents, but the truth is you were no surprise to God. It might be true that your father left you, but the truth is your heavenly Father never did, and He never will. It might be true that you look, sound or think differently than others. But the truth is you were knit together by God in your mother's womb. He formed your every feature to help you fulfill a unique purpose that nobody else can. Yes, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (see Ps. 139:14).
Your Identity: Handpicked by God
So you don't have to hold your head low or project some façade anymore. Despite the situation in which you were born, who has left you or the number of friends you have, God sees great value in you because He's the one who first chose you and has stayed with you. And because of this, your identity is not that of a reject but of one handpicked by God to do the good things He planned for you long ago (Eph. 2:10).
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Kyle Winkler equips people to live in victory. His mobile app, Shut Up, Devil!, is the No. 1 spiritual warfare app; and his book, Activating the Power of God's Word, uncovers 16 strategic declarations to transform your life. Kyle holds a Master of Divinity in biblical studies from Regent University. Get daily encouragement from Kyle on Facebook and Twitter.
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