Fathers are ultimately responsible for their sons' sexual development. It takes more than one talk--it takes honesty, courage and positive role-modeling.
Your son looks to you as a model in every area of his life. Have you ever considered whether or not you are modeling healthy sexuality for him?
I have spent countless hours counseling men whose fathers' sexual role-modeling was either absent or, worse still, destructive. The absent role model never discusses sexuality with his son. He doesn't know what to say about it, so he says nothing and hopes for the best.
Our resident humorist examines the theology behind the birds and the bees and concludes that God is nice ... very nice.
The Bible says that we can deduce much about the nature of God by studying aspects of His creation, and in that vein I think the study of sex leads us to the inescapable conclusion that God is nice.
Our enjoyment of a toe-curling, body-shuddering orgasm is not something that would have been dreamed up by a mean deity. God did not have to make sex a wonderful and fulfilling experience in order to propagate the human race. Because He is all-powerful, God could have arranged for us to experience an involuntary episode of cellular division.
Hard-wired into man's genetic code is a strong desire for beauty.
But unrealistic expectations are short-circuiting God's design.
Let's face it, there's just something wired into the male psyche that causes the passionate admiration and pursuit of beauty.
Virtually every man has at least once in his lifetime fantasized about snagging the "perfect woman." And while any gathering of red-blooded males might stir up a healthy argument over which woman deserves the title, author and Christian "sexpert" Doug Rosenau says that most men have a hard time narrowing it down to one person.
Question: I've never used Viagra and don't need to, but I realize that I have an underlying resistance to any drug used for sexual performance. What is your opinion of these kinds of drugs?
Answer: I think your apprehension to drugs is a very common feeling among Christians. If you don't need them, praise God and don't take any! For me, they are like any other medication you would take from a doctor.
I have talked with Christians from all over the country who think medication whether for depression, anxiety or headaches are all of the devil and a "real" Christian wouldn't take them. For me, the answer is simple and it points to the characters of God and the devil.
QUESTION: Sometimes I want sex with my wife because I'm seeking pleasure, not romance. I feel guilty. Should I?
ANSWER: Well, an honest man! Not every guy is motivated by a deep longing for an emotional encounter every single time he wants sex. The good news is, not every woman is either. Sometimes she just wants to feel the rush of the orgasm you produce for her. God created us to enjoy sex, so that's just being human.
Question: How concerned should I be if I start to think about other women while my wife and I are having sex?
Answer: An intrusive thought every now and then isn't cause for alarm. During sex, it's possible for you to have thoughts about nonsexual things as well as thoughts about people. But if these thoughts regularly invade your lovemaking and include beautiful women who talk dirty to you, then you may have a problem. read more
Not since the first Spider-Man hit the big screen had I been looking forward to catching a superhero at the cineplex as Captain America this summer.
After all, I remember as a small boy being hooked on the alter ego of Steve Rogers, a frail young man who was enhanced to the peak of human perfection by an experimental serum in order to aid the United States' World War II effort. read more
If Spider-Man's creed is "with great power comes great
responsibility," the mantra of Thor could easily be "with great power comes
The latest superhero movie from Marvel Studios, Thor
features an out-of-this-world arrogant, reckless and selfish warrior (Chris
Hemsworth), who is about to be named king of the mystical
kingdom of Asgard by his father, Odin (Anthony Hopkins). But Thor's reckless
actions reignite an ancient war with the frost giants—a provocation that runs
counter of Odin’s advice: “a wise king never seeks out war, but he must always
be ready for it.”
Odin justly calls Thor a "vain, greedy, cruel boy," but the son
fires back with, "You are an old man and a fool!" Bad move, as his father
removes Thor’s power, and casts him and his mighty hammer Mjolnir to
Earth—forcing him to live among humans. Speaking of Thor’s hammer, it can be
thrown like a boomerang, spun like nunchucks and can alter the weather—"a weapon
to destroy or a tool to build," according to King Odin.
From a celestial sword-and-sorcery fantasy ala The Lord of the Rings, the film then becomes a
fish-out-of-water action/comedy as Thor must adjust to the new world around him,
while earthlings are dumbfounded by his Viking ego and mannerisms. For example,
he storms into a diner and yells “I need SUSTENANCE,” and “I need a HORSE” as he
stumbles into a hamster-and-hound-packed pet store.
The best parts of the movie are when Thor is banished to Earth,
and he must find out what it takes to be a true hero when his crafty
half-brother, Loki (Tom Hiddleston), threatens the whole planet. After he
crash-lands in a New Mexico desert, Thor literally runs into astrophysicist
Jane Foster (Natalie Portman), and he must learn to embrace a humble attitude to
Despite earning more than $440 million at the global box office
this summer, I was leery to watch Thor largely because the character
was heavily promoted in the box office as the “god of thunder.” Getting over my
trepidation, I decided to catch the movie's recent release on DVD and Blu-ray.
After all, I recall as a youngster reading about
the Mighty Thor—a superhero who doesn't have a costume to be the hero
when he was created by Stan Lee and Jack Kirby for Marvel Comics back in the
Thor, Odin, Loki and other denizens of Asgard are "gods,"
according to Norse myth and in Marvel's original comic books. In the film, the
inhabitants of Asgard don't see themselves as gods, although they acknowledge
that they were taken to be such when they came to Earth about a thousand years
ago. Although they possess god-like powers and reside in a heavenly place, the
movie portrays them as aliens from a faraway world—a realm where science and
magic are basically one and the same.
By getting around this cloudy spirituality, the film does offer
a nod to Christianity, turning Thor into a Christ-figure when Loki sends a
robotic Destroyer to eliminate his stepbrother and Earth's inhabitants.
Best known for film adaptations of several plays by William
Shakespeare, director Kenneth Branagh deftly handles direct this large-scale
superhero drama as he wisely sets the stage for a Shakespeare-like fallen
hero who must find humility in order to rise to greatness. Thor is a
worthwhile summer flick, offering plenty of hammer-wielding action, but it's not
exceptional as Captain America—which I'll save for another review.
Besides deleted scenes, featurettes and teasers for next
summer's The Avengers, the next superhero movie from Marvel Studios,
the DVD and Blu-ray features the first "Marvel One Shot"—short films that are
meant to link The Incredible Hulk, Iron Man and Thor, members of the Avengers. The short stars S.H.I.E.L.D.
(Strategic Homeland Intervention, Enforcement and Logistics Division)
man-on-the-ground Agent Coulson (Clark
Content Watch: The film is rated PG-13 for sequences of intense
sci-fi action and violence, and brief, light foul language. It features some
family-friendly content, although I wouldn't recommend the film for children 10
and under because of the scary frost giants and relentless battles. Although
there's no sex or profanity, Thor is seen out-drinking another character.
Parents should discuss with youngsters the difference between the gods of Norse
mythology and the one true God. read more