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When Death Gives Life

Todd and Tara Storch didn’t have the choice to save their 13-year-old daughter, Taylor, after a devastating skiing accident. In a flash, a Colorado trip went “from the most wonderful, beautiful, exciting family vacation to the worst nightmare we think we could ever imagine,” Todd Storch says.

But what they could do was save other lives by donating their daughter’s organs.

“With everything we were dealing with, that decision to say ‘yes’ was the simplest decision we had to make,” he says. They knew it’s what Taylor would have wanted.

But saving lives for the Storches didn’t stop there. Within months of losing their daughter, they started Taylor’s Gift Foundation, a nonprofit that offers events, speaking engagements and other services with an aim to increase donor registrations throughout the United States and to financially help those who have been touched by organ donation. Through their efforts, the lives their daughter saves is multiplied.

“This has given us purpose in pain,” Tara says.

To coincide with April’s National Organ Donation Awareness Month, the couple is releasing Taylor’s Story, a book that tells their daughter’s story and highlights the men and women who are alive because of her. One mother of two in Arizona received Taylor’s heart—which means, Tara says, “Taylor’s heart has never stopped beating.”

The Storches hope their story helps others endure the dark places of tragedy. “We have searched for the good with God at our side,” Tara says. “We hope people will see they can get through anything with their faith if they just let God in. We feel so blessed that Taylor is being such a tool for Christ.” read more

How to Pray for Your Prodigal

Pop star Katy Perry is known for pushing the envelope. Her mother, prophetic evangelist Mary Hudson, still believes her daughter will return to the godly foundation upon which she was raised. Mary shares how to stand in the gap for your prodigal child. read more

Do You Have a Family Constitution?

You would never enroll your child in a school that lacked an infrastructure or invest in a banking system void of policies and procedures. So why do we choose to live a life outside God's biblical constitution? Here's how to create a family constitution. read more

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How to Guard Your Children Against Evil

With the recent shooting in Connecticut, where do we even start to explain what happened to our innocent children? How can we shield them from the evil this incident exposed? We give you answers.  read more

How to Lead Your Children to Christ

God wants children to experience His power—but parents and ministers sometimes don't know how to lead youngsters into a deeper encounter with the Holy Spirit. Here are some guidelines. read more

10 Ways to Sabotage Your Marriage

Like a piece of sand in an oyster, small irritations in marriage will accumulate until they're much bigger. Except in this case, you won't end up with a beautiful pearl! Here are some "grains of sand" that can sabotage your marriage.  read more

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The Bullies Among Us

With a new school year just around the corner, many children will begin facing problems with bullying. Counselor Shannon Perry gives practical advice on how to handle a bullying situation—whether your child is the victim or the bully.  read more

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Family on the Move

Ron and Katie Luce have inspired thousands of teens to serve God. They began by practicing at home with their own kids what they preach in public. read more

Protecting Our Kids

If there is a teenager in your home, you see something every day that others may miss: The battle for their hearts is real and the battle is here. The culture's impact even on Christian homes is undeniable.

The questions screaming in a parent's mind are: "What in the world do I do? How can I protect, help and arm my kids?"

During the last few years, you may have heard other Christian leaders talking about the battle for this young generation. Now let's talk about some specific tools you can use to win the war for your children. read more

Dealing With a Defiant Child

It's a wonderful fact that children will occasionally disobey their parents for the express purpose of testing just how much they can get away with. This is a game I call "Challenge the Chief," and it can be played with surprising skill—even by very young kids.

If you have children at home, you probably know exactly what I'm talking about. You have clearly and emphatically told your little girl, "Don't touch the lamp," only to turn around a moment later to see her flashing you an impish grin as her hand grasps the forbidden object. Or perhaps you've instructed your son to clean up his messy room or eat his vegetables, and he responds by setting his jaw, folding his arms and essentially saying, "Make me!"

Virtually every parent, the world over, has been issued an ultimatum of this nature at one time or another! But when moms and dads ignore this kind of challenge, something changes in the parent-child relationship. For a particularly strong-willed boy or girl, that early test of parental leadership can grow into a full-blown case of rebellion during the tumultuous days of adolescence. read more

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Parenting Pains

 It might sound like a cliché, but parenting e toughest jobs on Earth. After about 20 years of on-the-job training, we begin to figure out what it is all about. By then it's time to let go and pretend we don't care any more.

Added to these difficulties are our own personal problems, which can include marital conflict or divorce, physical illnesses, financial pressures and the other cares of living. Our unmet needs, such as those experienced by single parents, can also lead us into behavior that will later seem terribly foolish.


 

Do I sound as though I'm whining here? I hope not. I'm simply attempting to articulate the challenges that can accompany parenthood and the particular discomfort that occurs for parents of strong-willed children when they begin to feel they have botched the assignment. (The parents of compliant children may not fully understand this emotional reaction, although there is usually enough related stress to affect everybody.)

Despite the discouraging moments, it is my firm conviction that bearing and raising children is worth everything it costs us. Along with the difficulties come the greatest joys and rewards life has to offer.

How could that be true? How can the very thing that brings us anxiety and stress be the source of such happiness and fulfillment? There is an obvious contradiction here that bears consideration.

Christian writer and apologist C.S. Lewis tried to express the indescribable pain that he experienced when he lost his wife to cancer. He would not have been so devastated by her passing, he said, if he had not allowed himself to love her with all his heart.

In the movie Shadowlands, based on this period of Lewis' life, he wondered if it would have been better never to have loved at all, and thereby to have avoided the risk of losing the woman he adored. It would certainly have been “safer” to live in a fortress, protecting himself from disappointment and grief by remaining emotionally detached and uncaring.

Lewis considered these responses to sorrow and decided that in the end, love is worth the risk. This is the way he penned his conclusion:

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully around with hobbies and little luxuries ... lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness.

“But in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, airless-it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable ... The only place outside heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers of love is hell!” Then Lewis added this concluding thought: “Why love if losing hurts so much? We love to know that we are not alone.”

Doesn't this insight speak eloquently of the pain associated with parenthood? It certainly does to me. This is what bearing and raising children comes down to. Loving those we have borne is risky business, but it is a venture that brings great joy and happiness. Even though there are often trials and tears associated with the challenge, it is a noble journey.

We as parents are given the privilege of taking the raw materials that comprise a brand-new human being and then molding him or her day by day into a mature, disciplined, productive and God-fearing adult who will live with us in eternity. Doing that job right, despite its setbacks and disappointments, is surely one of the greatest achievements of our lives.

In his Bringing Up Boys Parenting Videos, Dr. Dobson shares principles for raising boys from his decades of expertise. This self-directed program includes four DVDs and an accompanying workbook that will equip parents and youth leaders to steer the boys they care about toward confident, responsible manhood.

To request your copy visit family.org/resources.


Dr. James Dobson is founder and chairman of the board of the nonprofit organization Focus on the Family (Colorado Springs, CO 80995; or www.family.org). Material is excerpted from The Complete Marriage and Family Home Reference Guide and Bringing Up Boys, both published by Tyndale House. read more

Are Your Children Pushing Your Buttons?

It's a wonderful fact that children will occasionally disobey their parents for the express purpose of testing just how much they can get away with. This is a game I call "Challenge the Chief," and it can be played with surprising skill—even by very young kids. read more

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