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Can he have any type of disability, be it physical or mental?
 
Feeling shallow yet?
 
I don't think we should squash our dreams of our perfect guy, so go ahead and write out every shallow little thing you can think of. Sometimes we try to be so holy and righteous that we squash the natural feelings and inclinations we have.
 
I heard a long time ago that since God knows exactly what you're thinking and feeling, you might as well tell Him. So I do. If I have a shallow thought, I share it with Him, and sometimes I have to ask Him to change the way I feel since it's not what He wants from me.
 
I know I'm not the only girl to have a shallow list, and as my youth group girls and I were going through the chapter in my book that covers this, they shared their shallow lists as well. At first, they didn't go very deep—because, after all, who wants to be seen as shallow?
 
But after a while, some really good answers poured out. And what I saw was not a group of shallow teenagers but maturing young women who wanted to be intentional with the men they would eventually date.
 
The higher the standard—or rather, the more particular the qualifications list—the less likely these girls will be to settle for someone below par. And I want my girls to marry the best. I know God has amazing men for them to meet one day.
 
And while we're talking about qualifying the guy, we have to also look at ourselves. If we want to marry a man who is 5 percent body fat and works out every day, then we might not want to be stuffing our faces with pizza every night. If we want to marry a godly man, then we need to be in God's Word so that we have a strong relationship with Jesus as well.
 
What I found was that as I grew older, and thankfully a little wiser, my list started to change. What I thought was important in middle school differed a bit in high school and transformed some more when I was in college.
 
As the expectations I had for myself were nurtured and developed, my qualifications for a husband changed too.
 
I no longer had to marry a guy who worked a 9-to-5 job in a business suit and made a ton of money. Instead, I married a Marine who chose to go into the ministry.
 
Instead of marrying a man who loved dogs, I married a man who is allergic to everything. Bless his heart.
 
I married my opposite in many ways, and as my shallow list grew smaller and smaller, God blessed me in bigger ways—although He did grant me a few of my shallow wishes!
 
Just remember, the fundamentals are the most important.
 
I married a man who loves God more than he loves me. A man who studies and reads about God in his free time. Because he wants to. Because he can't get enough of Him.
 
Justin takes our little boys outside with him when he's fixing a tire or changing the oil or building a set of custom bunk beds. While most people would see having little fingers grabbing tools as an annoyance, Justin sees working with his children as a bonding opportunity and a teaching moment.
 
I wouldn't trade that for all the dogs in the world.
 
Bethany Jett is an author and speaker from Tampa, Fla. Her dating book for young women, TheCinderella Rule, is available online and in bookstores everywhere. Find her at bethanyjett.com.

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