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One time, I made a list of the qualifications I wanted in a husband.
Cute. Tall. Funny. Smart. Christian.
But I think most girls want that. What was to set the guy I wanted apart from every other guy who was cute, funny, tall, smart and a Christian? I had to really think about it.
Over the years, my list grew more detailed. I don't remember ever writing down all my qualifications, because some of them sounded so shallow. Turns out, most of us have a list we don't share with anyone for fear of sounding vain. But that is what separates us—what shows our individual preferences.
It's OK to have a shallow list!
Do you want to know my ultimate shallow qualification? I wanted a man who was "cool" in the eyes of the world but chose to be a Christian. I wanted a guy who could hang out with anybody, whom everyone liked and respected—a guy who was popular and didn't use the church as a crutch or need it in order to have a place to belong.
I wanted to find a guy who chose God because he needed Him.
Because he wanted Him.
Not because God was the only one left to accept him.
God delivered. Justin partied with the best of them (not an endorsement) but gave up that way of life for something better. Something eternal. 
All right girlies, let's make a list! Break out your notepad and pen. We're gonna make a shallow list!
To be fair—and to get it out of our system—go ahead and write down the obvious ones:
  • Christian. Hopefully that's your first non-negotiable since the Bible says not to be unequally yoked (2 Cor. 6:14).
  • Tall. Maybe you don't care about his height. In that case, don't write it down.
  • Smart. Yes, he needs to be able to have an intelligent conversation!
  • Funny. This one backfired on me, since my sister is literally the funniest person I know. I can't breathe most of the time when she makes me laugh.
OK. Got those typical answers out of the way. So, what's next? Does he need to have a job? A good job? Do you care how much money he makes?
Does he have to like children? What hair color are you hoping for? Does he need to be sports buff, or would you prefer someone who hates sports as much as you do?
What kind of family do you want him to come from? Does he need to share your favorite interests? Can he be a vegetarian? (I know the vegetarians are screaming, "Yes!")

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