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Jerome & Leilani Haywood
Jerome & Leilani Haywood

#5: He doesn't pressure you into premarital sex.

Jerome quit dating at 21 and was celibate for 13 years until we got married. I don't know very many guys who could claim this record. If the guy speaks in tongues, reads his Bible everyday and memorizes Scripture yet pressures you into sleeping with him, saying that you can repent or God will give you grace, run!

Guys who can exercise self-control when they're single will be faithful during marriage. I know that virginity or being celibate as a single is not a popular topic in church sermons. But God has a lot to say about sexual immorality: "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous" (Heb. 13:4, ESV).

With these five signs confirmed, you should have a good sense of whether the guy who just asked you to marry him is really "the one." If one of these signs is red, then I recommend waiting until that sign turns green.

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Leilani Haywood is a Kansas City, Mo.-based award-winning writer and columnist. Her work has been published in the Kansas City StarMetro Voice and other publications. When she's not updating her status on Facebook or Twitter, she's working on her book. Follow her on Twitter @leilanihaywood.

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