Sometimes it’s easier to apply God’s truths to my life than to the lives of my children. I don’t know why that is. Maybe I feel like I should be able to fix things for them because I’m their mom.
If I just love them enough, they won’t feel the void their Dad’s departure left. Nope…not possible, only God can.
If I just spend enough time with them they won’t miss their father so much. Nope…not possible, only God can.
If I just do enough for them they’ll know that they are valuable and loved. Nope…not possible, only God can.
If I make life easier for them the pain won’t be as acute. Nope…not possible, only God can.
What I’ve done in my feverish attempt to fill the hole left by their father is become completely exhausted and a bit ineffective as a parent.
It might have served a purpose to a degree at the beginning, but now I have children who are selfish about my time, demanding of my resources, thoughtless of the dynamics of our family and a bit entitled in their mentality.
Lest it sound like I have the rottenest kids on the East coast, let me say they are all wonderful. They all have lovely sweet moments and kind words often. My teenage daughter still calls me “mommy” sometimes which absolutely melts my heart. My tweenage son still enjoys reading with me each night while we snuggle. My six-year-old loves to draw pictures to encourage me. And at the most surprising and sweetest times, my five-year-old will flash me the sign for “I love you.” They all bless me…they just don’t really help me!
I’ve noticed recently that they don’t seem to be getting some pretty obvious house rules. You know the knock-before-entering thing. The don’t-help-yourself-to-mom’s-things-without-asking thing. The pick-up-after-yourself thing. The whole-obey thing.
I’ve made myself entirely too available for them…so now they expect me to ALWAYS be available for them.
I’ve allowed them to enter my space freely and boy am I paying for that now! There are always people in my room messing with my stuff…making a mess.
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