Your wife may speak a different love language than you do.
Your wife may speak a different love language than you do. (Unsplash/freestocks.org)

Have you ever noticed that when someone from another country speaks a different language, people feel the need to speak louder? We think speaking loudly will bridge the communication gap. But it doesn't. Their ears are working; it's their brain that can't understand the words.

The same problem occurs when a husband and wife have different love languages. A husband loves his wife in a certain way, and when it's not appreciated, he doubles his efforts. It's as though he's getting louder, thinking it will work better. He does more of the things he was doing rather than changing his method and loving his wife in the language she understands.

My wife, Susan, and I made this mistake for years. We were loving in different languages that only grew louder without ever being understood. You can watch this video for our story and how to love your spouse the right way.

We want you to learn from our mistake. Learn to listen and love in a way that hits the heart.

Get the books Lists to Love by for Busy Husbands and Lists to Love by for Busy Wives and learn more about how you can love well.

Huddle up with your wife and ask, "What is your love language?"

Mark Merrill is the president of All Pro Dad and Family First, a national non-profit organization. He is also the voice of a daily radio program called The Family Minute.

For the original article, visit allprodad.com.

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