New Man

Want to receive New Man by email? Sign up here
Walk with Christ

At the age of 19, during my freshman year at college, I decided I wanted to become a pilot. So I went for it.

When you train to be a pilot, you have to go through many hours of ground school and flight training. One thing you learn in flight school is that a critical responsibility of a pilot is to do a preflight inspection before he and his passengers board the vessel. He should check out the inside of the aircraft to make sure all the instruments are working, and he should inspect the outside of the plane, especially its integrity, to ensure there are no cracks in the wings or fuselage. Even a minor breach can spell disaster once the plane is in the air.

Integrity

Likewise, a father must ensure he is living a life of integrity as he carries his children on the journey. To compromise, even in the slightest, could be devastating for a child. Integrity is what you do when no one else is looking.

A Breach of Integrity

Dark secrets in your life can cause a dangerous breach in your fatherhood fuselage and keep you from growing as a leader in your home. Addictions—sexual, pornographic, gambling, drugs, alcohol—are primary culprits that will keep you from being the dad you want to be.

When something unhealthy or wrong tempts your heart, you must guard your heart against that temptation. Succumbing to temptation, simply put, is caving in to something because it will, at least temporarily, satisfy you. All of us are tempted. The question is what we are going to do with that temptation that constantly sneaks its way into our lives.

A proverb says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” When temptation calls our name and seduces us, rarely do we take a step back, look at it logically, and say, “OK, I see this thing that is tempting me. Sure, it is exciting, it’s fun, and it will make me feel so good. But I’m not going to go there because it not only will hurt me in the long run, but it will also deeply wound my wife and my children.” So, how then can we guard our hearts against being taken on down the wrong runway toward an affair, gambling, greed, workaholism, or pornography?

Be Open for Inspection

One place to start is to be “open for inspection” at any time and at any place. Here are a few personal examples.

My wife, Susan, knows my computer password and can access it any time to see what I am reading and looking at. She can also see my calendar at any time.

Susan and my kids can also pick up my smartphone any time to read my texts and emails and check out what kind of music I’m listening to.

Susan has complete access to our financial accounts and can see where the money goes.

My trusted assistant of over 20 years knows exactly where I’m at and who I’m with most of the time and helps keep me on track.

A couple of my friends also know they have the freedom to probe into my life to ensure I stay on course.

I am fearful of messing things up. I’m just one decision away from doing something really stupid and giving up a lifetime relationship with my wife and kids for a moment of pleasure.

Being open for inspection is critical. So, the critical question for you is: Are you open for inspection any time and at any place?


For the original article, visit markmerill.com. Mark Merrill is the president of Family First.

Your Turn

Comment Guidelines
View/Add Comments
Use Desktop Layout
Charisma Magazine — Empowering believers for life in the Spirit

Newsletters from Charisma

Stay in touch with the news, bloggers and articles that you enjoy.