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Life's small irritations can ruin even the best marriages.

Like a piece of sand in an oyster, small irritations in marriage will accumulate until they're much bigger. Except in this case, you won't end up with a beautiful pearl!

Here are some "grains of sand" that can sabotage your marriage: 

1. Be a flirt. 

2. Undermine your spouse in public.

3. Use negative body language when your spouse is talking to you.

4. Fail to communicate on a daily basis.

5. Stop caring about your appearance.

6. Have children in order to bring your marriage together.

7. Men: Enjoy playing golf (or whatever takes your time) more than you enjoy your wife.

8. Women: Spend more time with your friends (or whatever takes your time) than you spend with your husband.

9. Find your self-esteem outside the marriage.

10. Conceal your expectations.


Source: God Is in the Small Stuff for Your Marriage (Promise Press), by Bruce Bickel and Stan Jantz.

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