As a Christian counselor I have listened
to many married couples express feelings of frustration and hurt because of
their inability to effectively communicate with one another. Studies prove that
communication breakdown is a major source of conflict, one that can eventually
lead to other problems in the marriage, such as a lack of intimacy and divorce.
Statistics prove the truth of what the Bible says in Proverbs 18:21: "The tongue
has the power of life and death" (NIV).
However, there is a remedy. Many of the
struggles married couples face, in fact, can be avoided with the use of some
simple communication tools. Learning to use these tools to express ourselves in
more effective ways fosters better understanding, which results in greater
emotional intimacy. read more
As a young believer, whenever circumstances that I viewed as roadblocks to an otherwise smoothly sailed life appeared, I took them as something to remove. They had no business causing a detour in my well-organized, over-controlled lifestyle. I had determined that anything negative must be the devil's playground, and I needed many hours of standing on the Word to void that which I perceived as his sinister activity. However, this seemed to have no effect. Situations remained.
Avoiding them or trying to pray the problems away was of no use either. Troubles sometimes arrived in a rush with no advance warning. It was confusing. Shouldn't believers be exempt from the normal living that existed for nonbelievers? Doesn't the writer of the psalms tell us that the crooked will be made straight? Doesn't Jesus calm troubled waters? But I also kept coming across words such as "suffering," "trials" and "testing" from New Testament writers. Could it be that somehow the Father allowed those dreadful situations in my life? If so, why? read more
I love O'Reilly, my Jack Russell Terrorâ€”I mean Terrier. Her boundless energy and spunk keep me on my toes, and her mischievous antics make me laughâ€”even when I'm trying to discipline her. She is full of personality, possessing the spirit of a preschool toddler. I love that about her. That is until recently when something happened to temporarily change my appreciation of her joie de vivre!
I was released from the hospital after undergoing major surgery, and it felt good to be home. I slowly hobbled into the house; every muscle in my body was hurting. I grabbed my down comforter, wrapped it tightly around me like a burrito and began to melt beneath its warmth. Just as I had started to drift off into a nice sleep, I was abruptly awakened. The front door opened and a shot of lightning flashed by me. It was O'Reilly. She soared into the living room where I was nursing my wounds and skyrocketed right for me like a heat-seeking missile. read more
Perhaps God spoke to you
at a particular time or was present on a particular occasion. At the time, it
didnâ€™t seem as if it was God who was doing the speaking or even if God was
present at all. You underestimated, if not rejected, what He did or what He
said. Only years later did it become clear to you that you had failed to
recognize His presence.
I remember many years ago, when Louise and I had
moved away from Fort Lauderdale, Florida, for only 18 months, we came back and
found that Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church had been started. Before we went
away, it had been a vacant lot with a big sign on it that read, "Future home of
Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church." That sign just stayed there month after month
for a couple years. We wondered: What is happening here? When will that
church start? read more
At one of our Charisma Women's Conferences, God spoke a powerful word to the nearly 8,000 women who attended. He said that it was time for us as women to step forward and accept the authority He has given us. He reminded us that we are empowered and authorized by His Word to do whatever He tells us to do.
The Promised Land described in the Old Testament is a picture of what God has available to us in the New Covenant (see Josh. 1). He has a promised land for each of our lives-a destiny that only we can fulfill. Your promised land is the will of God for your life and the only place you will find total fulfillment.
But to take your land, you must heed the admonition given to Joshua in verse 7: "Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go" (NIV).
When the Word says "be strong," it means not in your own strength but in the power of God. According to Acts 1:8, when we receive that power through the Holy Spirit, we are equipped just as the early church was to be witnesses for Christ. And one of the qualities we will exhibit in our Spirit-filled state is courage-the ability to face difficulties without fear.
Fear is one of the first weapons the enemy launches at us. It is the atmosphere of his realm just as faith is the atmosphere of God.
During the war in Iraq that took place in March of 2003, one of the tactics the United States employed against our enemies was psychological warfare. When successful, this tactic convinces the opposing army to surrender because they believe they are already defeated.
Our enemy, the devil, is more experienced than the Coalition forces in using this tactic since he has had thousands of years to perfect it. The Bible warns us not to be ignorant of his devices or he will take advantage of us (see 2 Cor. 2:11).
The first place he stages a battle is in our minds. But we have been given the strategy in the Word to "demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God" and to "take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" (2 Cor. 10:5), replacing the devil's thoughts with what God has promised us in His Word.
If you agree with the lies Satan whispers into your thoughts, it is easy to fall prey to discouragement. Discouragement will steal your faith, depress your spirit, take your strength and ultimately cause you to miss the plan God has for your life. That, of course, is the enemy's ultimate goal.
If you have become captive to discouragement, ask God to forgive you for listening to the lies of the enemy. Though He has promised to accomplish His plan through us, we have to do our part.
We must choose to believe His promises and trust Him to act. We must be strong and of good courage so we can fulfill all He has promised for our lives. read more
Many of you who are avid watchers of Christian television have no doubt seen my friend, Alvin Slaughter. He's a singer of tremendous anointing and incredible good humor.
Alvin tells a story about a time when he was in one of those first class lounges in the airport, waiting to board his next flight. Wearing his ever-present Walkman, he settled back with a favorite music tape and became overwhelmed with the presence of the Lord. read more
Our life on Earth is a life of seasons, a life of changes. Just as some seasons
are eagerly awaited and others are less happily anticipated because they are
not as pleasant, so some changes life brings are welcome and others are dreaded
because they are difficult, harsh and painful.
The thing that keeps us pressing on in the midst of changes, both good and bad,
is the belief that God is in full control of His world and that "He
[makes] everything beautiful in its time" (Eccl. 3:11, NKJV).No
matter what may come our way, we have a promise of beauty!
But only God in His eternal wisdom knows how the transformation will unfold and
when it will take place. He does His work as we learn to live in obedience and
contentment, trusting Him, believing that He will bring us through every season
of sorrow and pain into a beautiful reward.
His Word assures us, "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in
the morning" (Ps. 30:5). We can count on this. But what are we to do while
the night season remains?
The answer is, ENDURE. "For you have need of endurance, so that
after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise" (Heb.
10:36). "Endurance" is the ability to keep pressing on without
growing weary. It is stamina, forbearance, courage, fortitude, durability and
ability to stand.
But Biblical endurance is more than just being the last man to stand. Derived
from the Greek word "hupomone," which means cheerful endurance or
hopeful waiting,biblical endurance speaks to the attitude with which we
wait as much as it does to the act of waiting itself. It is more than just
making it across the finish line; it is the outlook we maintain while we run
Cheerful endurance is a powerful attitude that says, "God not only CAN
change my circumstances; He WILL!" It is a mind-set that is filled with
compelling confidence, trust, expectation, optimism and assurance in Christ.
Hopeful waiting and cheerful endurance will not allow us to give up our dreams
or turn loose of our hope; instead they call us to a deeper level of faith.
So how do we gain such endurance? The answer is not easy to accept. The Bible
clearly says that the trying and testing of our faith produces endurance (see
Testing is the weight of choice that God uses to develop our spiritual muscles
and internal stamina. When we face a trial that threatens our faith; when we
find ourselves in circumstances that are incompatible with what we believe, we
are in God's gym. It is then that we have the opportunity to build our
The resistance we feel can serve us in that moment. If we begin to lift the
weight up off ourselves with prayer, singing, meditation and obedient
responses, we will bench-press our way into cheerful endurance. The joy that
comes from passing a test, knowing that we have honored God in our lives, is
But what if we do not respond properly to God's "no pain, no gain"
training program? What happens to our endurance if these weights remain upon
us? The result of that condition is obvious. Trying to run a race while
encumbered with weights would leave us exhausted, depressed and drained. Yet
many of us do exactly that and then are perplexed at why our progress is so
Instead, we must rise up in faith, as the apostle Paul admonishes us to do:
"Let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that
so easily hinders our progress. And let us run with endurance the race that God
has set before us" (Rom.12:1).
The scripture says that WE are to throw off the weights. We must lay them down;
we must rid ourselves of them because they are counterproductive to our
We are not supposed to tolerate the weight of fear, failure, bitterness or
unforgiveness, or the heaviness of Satan's lies. We must press against these
weights, lift them off and grow in cheerful endurance!
Is God calling you to joyful endurance? Is He calling you to a new level of
faith? Do you need a fresh, dynamic, flourishing and hopeful expectation in
God? Have you lost your hope that anything beautiful can come out of your life,
your circumstances, your relationships, or your dreams?
Then get to God's gym. Start working out your salvation. There IS hope for a
better tomorrow because you have a promise of beauty! Throw off the old weights
and start running with endurance. You'll be amazed at the results!
"What a mess!" my husband
and I both kept saying again and again as we threw our hands in the air. We
spent the entire day going through old boxes of things we had collected over the
years. We had set aside several days to clean out closets and storage spaces. We
found countless things we forgot we owned. Do you have some boxes like thatâ€”the
ones where you sort of know what is in them, but then again, not really? Most of
us have scores of them.
In those boxes we found old magazines, yearbooks,
old cassette tapes, pictures and keepsakes. Many had developed a musty smell
that comes from years of storage. Then we came to the boxes of things we had
saved from our early years together of marriage and ministry. After hours of
sorting, I found it. It was a piece of paper from a time in our lives when it
seemed that our dreams for the future were crumbling one by one.
a prayer list we had made, much of which seemed so far-fetched. Some of the
items on the list were immediate needs that existed at the time, while others
were larger dreams and things we were asking God to do in the years to come,
much of which would take an absolute miracle to accomplish.
The day we
wrote it out years before, we had hung that long list of seemingly impossible
requests on our refrigerator. Every day we walked by it, and we would place our
hands on it and pray. We spoke aloud each time, reminding the Lord we were
expecting miracles. We quoted the Scripture verses we were trusting in regard to
it. We declared that each item would come to pass and we would see the hand of
God move. We spoke over the list believing for God's intervention, even when it
felt like we weren't seeing it.
Shortly thereafter, we moved to a
different house and, along with the rest of our household items, packed up that
list of prayer requests. Well, you know how it goes. You don't always unpack all
those boxes. Actually, a few moves later and nearly two decades of marriage
later, the number of unpacked boxes in the garage and basement grew.
finally on a clean-out day, I read that list again written almost 20 years ago.
My eyes filled with tears as I read it. I suddenly realized that God has not
only answered the seemingly small things, but over the years He had also
answered every item on the list, way beyond even what we wrote down. He
even answered the things that seemed impossible. Again, in a flash, I was
reminded of all the miracles that we had seen during the last several years. We
had seen the power of God revealed from heaven again and again. The things we
had seen God do were nothing short of miraculous and it was mostly all related
to what was on the list!
At that moment, we were not only reminded of
God's enduring faithfulness (and we apologized to the Lord for not acknowledging
His answers to these prayers sooner), but we also realized something else. It
was that every time we were putting our hand on the list taped to the fridge we
were releasing the power of God to work on our behalf. The supernatural God
inside us was releasing miracles; a river was flowing and bringing the answer,
and it didn't stop flowing until every request was answered, even though we
didn't realize it was happening at the time.
I have learned from this
experience not only that God lives in us, but also that the supernatural
God lives in us. He wants His supernatural power to flow through us to
accomplish the miraculous and do the impossible in our circumstances.
was talking with a woman who was struggling through a series of trials in her
life. Her take on her situation was that she was powerless to do anything but
wait and see what God would do. I knew she was committed to trust God, even if
the outcome was not what she hoped; however, let's face it, she wanted the same
outcome we all wantâ€”the same outcome we wanted when we made our prayer list. She
wanted her trial to result in a miracle. She wanted a supernatural intervention
of God to turn her situation around.
If we are honest with ourselves,
that is really what we all want when we come to God, isn't it? We want the power
of God to rescue us from the pain today so we can rise up and be a new person
tomorrow. Maybe what we have yet to realize is that the power of God is already
there. It's in you in the person of the Holy Spirit ready to work and ready to
flow (see Acts 1:8). When the fullness of God's Spirit is in you, there is
power, and it's the same power that performed the miracle of raising Jesus
Christ from the dead (see Rom. 8:11). Tap into that power and watch Him do the
miraculous for and through you.
Adapted from The Supernatural You
by Brenda Kunneman, copyright 2009, published by Charisma House. This book
will show you how to tap into the river of the Holy Spirit within you to
experience the supernatural power of God working in and through you. To order a copy click on this link: read more
In my years of service
as a pastor, many people have come to me with questions concerning knowing the
will of God for their lives. You may have questions about this as
You may ask, "Well, pastor, how do I really know whether this is my
will or God's will?" What I always tell people is that the will of God is
following the desires of your heart.
You may respond to that by saying:
"Well, pastor, how do I know whether it is my desire or God's desire? How can I
tell the difference between the desires I have and those that God gives me?" My
answer to that is, "If your heart is pure and you really desire to do the will
of God, you don't have to worry about your desires being wrong."
1:15 says, "Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled
and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled"
The only time you have to be concerned about your desires being wrong is
when you are in rebellion, disobedience, lust, or some other type of sin. Then
you have to be careful that you don't confuse your desires with God's desires.
People in a sinful spiritual state will twist or pervert God's desires. But as
long as you are pure, sincere and open before God, you can trust your desires
because your heart is open to receive the desires of God rather than your
One of the primary ways God will lead you is by the desires of your
heart. For example. If you are supposed to have a teaching ministry, God will
give you the desire to teach. You will have a burning desire to teach. Jeremiah
had a prophetic ministry. He was called to give the word of the Lord, and when
he tried to suppress it, the desire to prophesy became like fire shut up in his
You need to judge your own heart. If it is found to be pure and
you are sincere, then follow the desires of your heart because God will lead you
by dropping things into your spirit (that is, your heart). I believe it is the
same for getting a rhema word from God.
As long as your heart is right
and your motives are pure, you don't need to fear deception. God will always
answer those who are pure in heart. "Blessed are the pure in heart: for they
shall see God" (Matt. 5:8). God will give you revelation, and He will show you
things to come.
Ask God to keep you pure of heart and able to discern a
false prophet. You will often know them by their fruits (see Matt. 7:16,20; Luke
6:44). Do not let the existence of counterfeit prophecy deter you from receiving
the real thing. That would be like deciding not to pay for purchases with dollar
bills because you have heard that people manufacture counterfeit
There have been many times when I went to a meeting confused about
the specifics concerning the will of God for my life. I just did not know how to
accomplish what I felt He was telling me to do. I needed to hear God speak to my
situation. But because the sermon was "general" in nature, an all-purpose good
message, I would leave in the same state in which I came, and I would not have
an opportunity to receive prophetic ministry, which is what I needed
It wasn't until I started seeking a rhema word from God that I got
the direction I needed for my life. You will also get the direction you need for
your life if you open up your heart to the word of the Lord through personal
prophecy and go to local assemblies where the believers flow accurately in the
prophetic gift. Thank God for the gift of prophecy.
Adapted from God Still
Speaks by John Eckhardt, copyright 2009, published by Charisma House.
Building from a biblical foundation, Eckhardt incorporates his own experiences
and those from people in his church to help you understand how to hear and
receive the prophetic word of the Lord for you, your family, church and
community. To order a copy click on this link: read more
The prodigal son didn't
end up among the pigs the day he left his father's house; he went through a
gradual process of decline (see Luke 15:11-15). So it is with us. If the enemy
presented the end with the first temptation, it would be easy to resist! But
usually the departure from grace is so subtle that even leaders take the
The warning signs are visible long before we fully embrace sin. One
of the first is that we allow other people or things to take the place in our
hearts that belongs only to God.
Preferring any earthly thing over God is
a clear sign that our hearts have wandered. Even the spiritually mature are in
danger of allowing what is visible to usurp the place of the eternal, invisible
The result is that we become lukewarm in our pursuit of God.
Complacency sets in. We compare ourselves to the standard of others rather than
to the standard of the Word and justify what we know is compromise.
begin to live "a form of godliness," being outwardly religious but having no
power in our lives (2 Tim. 3:5, KJV). Self then takes the throne (see vv.2-4).
We are no longer able to express the pure love God desires and are often
judgmental and critical of others. Ultimately, like the prodigal son squandering
his inheritance, we end up on the path to sin and spiritual death.
your heart has wandered, recognizing your condition and crying out for God's
help is the first step back into His empowering grace. Even your failure can be
a stepping stone to a higher place spiritually if you come to see that your
flesh can't be trusted. Understanding your own weakness is a key to releasing
God's power on your behalf.
The next step is to get right with God and
others. Even if you have been wronged, you must forgive. This may seem
difficult, but it is essential to maintaining communication with Godâ€”and it is
worth the price. As one saint wrote: "When the soul seeks nothing in the
universe but the smile of God and fears nothing but offending Him, it will
gladly consent to any price to get right with Him."
]Third, look to God
and His Word as your standard rather than to those around you. Jesus said, "'Be
ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect'" (Matt.
5:48). This is an impossible standard for us to attain on our own, but with God
we can do all things (see Phil. 4:13).
Finally, learn to walk in the
Spirit, keeping your mind on God and His kingdom by praying continually. In this
manner the Holy Spirit will become a filter for your thoughts.
Daily pray Psalm
139:23-24, "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious
thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way
everlasting" (NIV). God will be faithful to answer this prayer and to keep your
heart stayed on Him. read more